My wife knows about my porn watching and wants me to stop because it is getting in the way of our relationship. I am 38 and have been looking at porn since I was 14. It has been 24 years non stop. I don't know how to drop it.

I am sorry to hear that you

I am sorry to hear that you are having problems with your relationship. Have you tried going to counseling or support groups to see what is causing the porn addiction?

Porn star are really

Porn star are really attractive and you never come to terms as to when your attractiveness turns into addiction. You should really get yourself some authoritative counseling and may be trying some other sort to addiction that's really easy to forget to leave behind this addiction.

First - do you watch porn

First - do you watch porn like stock brokers watch the market, or do you watch for a short period of time once a day, once a week? & how long have you guys been married?

Second - I can totaly relate to your wife!! My husband watches porn alot(probably 3 - 4 times a week, not whole shows more like surfing those channels for a little while after the kids are in bed). There are times it seems like he is more interested in whats on TV or what they are doing on TV than what is right in front of him, or what we could be doing. Don't get me wrong I watch with him sometimes to spice it up, & do what he likes to do. I don't want it to be one sided deal in the bedroom area, but it can be a really big hit on my self esteam for several reasons. For one, I don't think wemon can go to the grocerey store without noticing what the other wemon in the store are wearing or how pretty they are or arn't, so to see these great looking wemon in porn videos bearig it all when you are about to bear it all is a hit on your self esteam (lets face it even if the wemon on the shows are not drop dead gorgous, they are still hot in some form or fashion). It's difficult to really get in to things when you feel like your competing for your man's attention with Mrs. Perfect Porn Star. 2ndly - You have every possible fantsey available for your vewing plesure, Some of the things they do are just not always possible with a normal just the two of you relationship, how can even spicy sex compete with what the people in the porn movies are partaking in. I can't help but feel like, If your husband enjoys porn that much then are you as a wife really fuflling his needs and desires?(my husband tells me that i'm crazy to have this kind of reaction to porn, but it is the immediate feelings I get regardless of him tellig me that he just enjoys watching porn, and what he really wants is me, and bla bla bla) Is it possible to even live up to the expectations that are set from the porn movies themselves. I used to think I was not to shabby in the bedroom, but over the years there seems to be more and more doubt as to weather or not he's truley satisfied, and more and more doubt as I get older and the porn stars get younger if I'm comfortable with me (being naked). Again, In his defiance he does constantly give me postive feed back, but it's turned into a hang up with me. No matter what positive things he says to me I look at the wemon on TV & what they are doing and immediatly get down on my self, or get uptight or mad even, and then my sex drive is gone. My husband and I have been togather for ten years, at the first of the relationship when he would watch I would watch with him and it was sexy and risky and fun, over the years it seems to have changed somehow. Idon't know if it is his problem and I should ask him to seek help, or if I just have a stupid hang up over things that I shouldn't let get to me.

Sorry so wordy - this just really hit home - Your wife might not like porn for completley different reason's than mine - but I thought a similar situation from a different point of view may help in understanding why the sudden demand for change. Either way I think you guys should talk about it, with open minds. -

Again Sorry so wordy!

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