my boyfriend wants to dump me because of my bulimia.. help
So my bf caught me purging AGAIN after i promised him for the THIRD time that i would stop and this time he says he is done with me.. i really love him and i dont want to lose him, how do i convince him to stay with me?
He's just trying to help, his intentions are good.
Your options are:
a. Choose him and give up bulimia,
b. Choose bulimia and give up him,
c. Choose neither,
d. Choose both, but be way more careful and be absolutely sure to keep binging and purging to yourself.
my best friends boyfriend broke up with her cause shes consistantly anorexic/bulemic
just think how hed feel for a moment, the person he loves is making themselves sick and damaging their body, no person wants to see that happen to the person they love and when he feels helpless that he cant stop you then he will want to leave.
Your causing him pain too, it will be better for both of you if you stop and im sure he wants to help you stop, it shouldnt be a matter of gettin caught, you should want whats best for you and him and not want to do this to yourself anymore.
if you love him and want him then you should want to do this for him and see how much he wants to help you
i hope you make a decision that will be better for both of you, and i hope you both lead happy and healthy lives
I have had bulimia for 3 years and been with my boyfriend for two. He never caught me because I pushed him away to give in to my eating disorder, but he didn't know while he was out with his friends that I was bingeing by myself. It took him until a few months ago when he left for grad school to have a serious talk with me that he couldn't take my nights of crying, bad health (unable to practice my college sport), and he just wanted me to be healthy. I had to take a break with him for a few months, but it was my first period of recovery (except at treatment) .. i went from no good days to 3 months. The point? You can do it. If you can't stop on your own...you need help...it's hard to admit and put your life on hold, but in the grand scheme of things, it's worth it. We got back together and were happier than ever. It felt like we started dating again. WHen I relapse (I tell him because i feel guilty otherwise) he gets very disappointed, but it is out of caring and concern. You have to be active in your recovery...don't lose hope, and find something that works for you. I am still struggling and my boyfriend questions our future because of my health, but they are far and few in between the good days. It will be hard. You will be anxious. When you are sick and tired of playing the game and letting it ruin your life, you will be forced to do something...so don't wait until tomorrow for what you can start today.
I think it is absolutely awesome that you have been that honest with your boyfriend. Being that honest is incredibly hard. I've told so few people... my boyfriend surely doesn't know. But i've been in recovery for quite a few months now. I guess I kind of feel like telling him would be admitting that I could go back there, and I don't want to admit that.
I think that is exactly where the eating disorders come from, as well as the advertising and everything you see these days. I had an ex that used to be very controlling also. At any given time, I was too fat---too skinny---too fat.....! It basically started out like the OP's question. Now I actually have a hard time keeping my body weight UP! I was young at the time, and I listened to this ::hesitating:: man. I gained weight, lost weight, gained weight....! Now as I'm a little older, it is hard for me to control my weight, because it's all screwed up!
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He's just trying to help, his intentions are good.
Your options are:
a. Choose him and give up bulimia,
b. Choose bulimia and give up him,
c. Choose neither,
d. Choose both, but be way more careful and be absolutely sure to keep binging and purging to yourself.
Best of luck!
WAIT!!!!!
Dont choose "b" or "d"
Thwy a are both the WRONG decision.
TRUST ME!!
I have had bulimia for 3 years and been with my boyfriend for two. He never caught me because I pushed him away to give in to my eating disorder, but he didn't know while he was out with his friends that I was bingeing by myself. It took him until a few months ago when he left for grad school to have a serious talk with me that he couldn't take my nights of crying, bad health (unable to practice my college sport), and he just wanted me to be healthy. I had to take a break with him for a few months, but it was my first period of recovery (except at treatment) .. i went from no good days to 3 months. The point? You can do it. If you can't stop on your own...you need help...it's hard to admit and put your life on hold, but in the grand scheme of things, it's worth it. We got back together and were happier than ever. It felt like we started dating again. WHen I relapse (I tell him because i feel guilty otherwise) he gets very disappointed, but it is out of caring and concern. You have to be active in your recovery...don't lose hope, and find something that works for you. I am still struggling and my boyfriend questions our future because of my health, but they are far and few in between the good days. It will be hard. You will be anxious. When you are sick and tired of playing the game and letting it ruin your life, you will be forced to do something...so don't wait until tomorrow for what you can start today.
I think it is absolutely awesome that you have been that honest with your boyfriend. Being that honest is incredibly hard. I've told so few people... my boyfriend surely doesn't know. But i've been in recovery for quite a few months now. I guess I kind of feel like telling him would be admitting that I could go back there, and I don't want to admit that.
I think that is exactly where the eating disorders come from, as well as the advertising and everything you see these days. I had an ex that used to be very controlling also. At any given time, I was too fat---too skinny---too fat.....! It basically started out like the OP's question. Now I actually have a hard time keeping my body weight UP! I was young at the time, and I listened to this ::hesitating:: man. I gained weight, lost weight, gained weight....! Now as I'm a little older, it is hard for me to control my weight, because it's all screwed up!