I am in love with an girl with anorexia & bulimia. I am proud of her because she is in therapy and has completed a 30 day inpatient clinic.
I know she is going through a tough time and I am there for her but it hurts me to be ignored at times.
I love her regardless and have made sure she knows this.
She does communicate but the walking on egg shells is painful at times.
Can anyone offer me some insight or advice?
Thanks


hey!! i know it must be really hard for you with you girlfriend sometimes. i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 8 months now and i never talk to him about the way i am, i mean he knows all about it but he doesnt talk to me about it. Im not sure if he thinks im weird or somrthing but im afraid that he thinks im looking for attention or something, i know he loves me and he would do anything for me. your girlfriend is so lucky to have you by her side for support and if you feel ignored tell her just mention it to her in passing i know i would want my boyfriend to tell me. just be there for her and she will be there for you! do you feel like its hard to talk to her incase you say something wrong? i was wondering if when your girlfriend told you you thought for a while that she was looking for attention? because im afraid that he thinks that and maybe its the reason why he doesnt talk tome about it or ask about it much??
thanks
thanks for your response
I hope you are well and happy.
I am an Iraq vet with some PTSD issues, insecurity is one I never had but now do. So when she becomes reclusive and does not answer me I find it upsetting and try not to take it personally but its tough.
I do not need much but some days I have therapy at the VA and would like to hear her voice. She gets where she can barely get through her day and can not even consider mine.
I am always there for her anything
I told her today that I was sorry for being such a bother and would stop.I may have to create some distance since this is really hurting me
I do not think she is asking for attention with her ED at all. Of course I had never thought that it would be a way to get attention
hey I am just a clueless guy (when it comes to emotions)
She won't want to talk a whole lot. Obviously putting everything out there is scary, and she'll want to have as much stuff kept personal as is healthy. If you take her ignoring and hard times in stride and stay by her, she will definitely remember your loyalty. Just keep with her until she's well enough to know how to repay you for it.
I am not keeping an emotional tally. However, this gets pretty painful and causes me a lot of worry. At this time in my life going to therapy and taking meds she maybe causing me damage and interfering with my recovery-my therapist is concerned to say the least.
I just cant help how much I care about her or how I feel about her.
Walking away is something I have never had to do.
I sent her a text last night that I was going to stop bothering her
she responded within a minute with ???
Thats what it takes to get any response????
i posted a thread similar to this but got no response. My ex has an ed and broke up with me out of the blue 6 or 7 weeks ago, like, properly out of the blue. Text me saying she loved me so much, and the next day broke up with me, saying that i didnt put her first and it didnt seem i was that bothered about her. This was absolutley unbelievable, as im a pretty affectionate kinda guy and also made sure she realised just how much i loved her, and a couple of weeks later we had a drunken phone call and she admitted to me that she just wanted to be on her own because then she would be in control and no-one could tell her what to do. The last time i was with her i had a bit of a go at her as her bf about never eating, i know that wasnt a good idea but it hurts getting lied to. Obviously this wasnt a good idea as a few days later we broke up.
Anyone any idea why she would have said the hurtful things she did when we broke up even though we both knew they werent true, and also, she keeps making contact with me and i think she may regret what she has done and want me back. Obviously i want her back as well.
Any idea how i should the situtation?
thanks for any hep that can be provided