My friend got out of control again last night. He started drinking in the afternoon and kept on until late night. I've stopped telling him to control it because once he starts he doesn't really listen. Anyway, he actually seemed fine until having a mini-blowup about nothing with a store clerk. Had to drag him out to send him home as he tried to walk back in to have more words with the store clerk. He calmed down after about ten minutes and said he was going to sleep.
I can see the pattern. He always gets violent and angry after about seven or eight drinks, but you can't really talk to him once he starts.
It is great that you are stepping in but I have been in situations where you know someone needs to stop but they dont want> what I did was take small steps towards that so they would get completely angry and close off communications. Maybe to keep talking through it. Go to a meeting. Counseling?
have you tried alonon? :D