I have a son who has been going back and forth withe heroin for a number of years.He has had a promising career but it appears that has been destroyed by his addiction. He recently left his last job and I have lost touch with him. I have no idea where he is. I know this whole situation is beyond my control but I can't help worrying about him. The only thing that keeps running across my mind is him being a homeless junkie.
I know I'm not the only one out there that is dealing with similar problems. As a parent it really upsets me to be in a position of having absolutely no control or being able to help.
I've been in the same situation. There are things you just have to let go and let G-d take care of. It's the only way to remain sane.
Let G-D take care of it? You've got to be kidding me. I feel there are to many people in the world sitting back and waiting for G-D to take care of the world and not doing anything for themselves or others. He/She/Whatever hasn't taken care of tsunami, earthquake, hurricane victims. What about all the people starving in the world.Why should H/S/W be concerned about me and my junkie son?
I know I sound like a real jerk-off but I signed up for this forum hoping to connect with people that have unfortunately had similar experiences and how they did or are dealing with it.
I'm a father, he's my son. I can't give up on him.
Hello Rod...I am so sorry to hear about your situation. My addiction was pills for too many years and I almost lost it all. I have been clean for over a year but it wasnt easy. I do understand your frustration where everyone says that spirituality is the answer. I am not knocking faith because I have it as well but I believe, as do many experts, that addiction is a disease. You can't just pray cancer away. There can be a combination of all things.
With heroin there is a medical treatment called suboxone. It helps with the withdrawals. You keep taking less and less amounts of suboxone over time to help ween off the heroin. I also believe that support groups help a ton. I am stilll going after over a year. Hearing other people who went through the same thing really helped a lot.
Now....how do you get your son to start getting treatment? There really is no magic answer for this. I am sorry. But hopefully you can find him, take steps and show that there are ways to get help and get back to the life he used to have.
Take care. Please keep us up to date. Let me know if you have any questions.
I am sorry you took my comment the wrong way. I was not inferring you give up on your son, but at the end of the day you are also not in charge. I have been in a similar situation as you and you should know that when I stopped letting my actions be guided by me and me alone and started seeing myself as a conduit for something bigger and happier in my child's life, my child reacted better. Many children resort to drugs because of a variety of reasons. One of them is a disconnect in what their parents want for them. I only noticed after a while and what helped me notice it was breaking down my own eg and what I thought was best all the time.