One of life’s bleak prospects is living with an addict who is consumed with an over burning desire when and where to get the next high or next drink. There will be less emotional preoccupation. Your life would also be in shambles---you think you deserve a better life that looking after an addict whose main preoccupation is himself/herself. You can be stressed by the situation and oftentimes forget that you have a life.
You are a different person and you deserve to have a better life. Get out of that quagmire that you are in. Coping does not mean you have to be a slave to the addiction of your partner. Coping means seeing that there is still hope at the end of the tunnel. You should be able to understand how this disease can easily trap you into a life of misery and that there is a way out.
Try talking to a counselor who is an expert on addiction. A counselor can be an oasis of wisdom and perspective of the condition.
Join a support group where people are also experiencing or have experienced your woes and understand what you are going through. Draw support from them and you will feel that you are not alone in your struggle.
Stop bailing your partner out and covering for his/her addiction. He/she has to face the dire consequences of his/her addiction so that somehow there is motivation for him/her to get out of the addiction.
Lastly, you have a life to live. You owe it to your Maker to make good in this life. Think about your dreams and aspirations. Don’t be consumed with guilt. Focus on your life.
